


How to get noticed at work -finding recognition
“79% of resignations are caused by a lack of recognition” Forbes Does it sometimes feel like your hard work isn’t noticed? Perhaps you do such a damn good work on a regular basis so much that your supervisor takes you for granted. Maybe, because of this, you’re no longer

Why you should never stop learning
“Great things happen to those who don’t stop believing, trying, learning, and being grateful.”― Roy T. Bennett “From the sadness, learn something; from the happiness, learn something. From the setback, learn something and even from the success learn something. Never stop learning from any situation in life, for that is where

SUIT Etiquette – unspoken rules for wearing your suit
“First advice for anyone who wants to feel fantastic in a suit, is to make sure it fits well and that it is styled properly” It is very unlikely that most young men in Nigeria can avoid wearing a suit. It is the official dress code to formal and even

Gentleman’s guide to Dinner Etiquette
“A gentleman is one who puts more into the world than he takes out” George Bernard Shaw I think it’s safe to assume that not everyman automatically knows and practices proper dining etiquette. This becomes evident in restaurants as many young men follow no rule in particular for behaving at

Living with DiD – Famous stories of the disorder
Dissociative identity disorder (DID), formerly referred to as multiple personality disorder, is when a person manifests two or more distinct personalities that switch off controlling the body. Think back to a time where you had a bit too much to drink. The next day, could you remember what your drunken self

Another DiD story – the disorder described in #WoS
Dissociative identity disorder (DID) continues to be a largely misunderstood – and sometimes controversial – mental illness Pieces of Me: One woman’s story of living with multiple identities Violent trauma caused her mind to fragment. Like a fractured mirror in dozens of pieces. Senior Health Correspondent Monica Robins brings you

Dissociative Identity Disorder (DiD) – the disorder described in the #WoS
Dissociative Identity Disorder DID – Dissociative Identity Disorder “Do I have dissociative identity disorder?” Somewhere deep inside you are probably asking yourself this question! It would help to understand this condition so you can rule yourself out or take a decision to seek help. Dissociative identity disorder or DID is

My interview with The Punch newspapers – there is a writer in each of my kids
1st May 2022 Oladimeji Ramon1 May 2022 A civil engineer and creative writer, Akin Akingbogun, speaks to OLADIMEJI RAMON about his craft Tell us a bit about yourself. Akin Akingbogun is a 42-year-old civil engineer, who has openly professed to be 13 years younger to fit the narrative for

The unseen hands behind the scene – By Dupe Bobadoye
“Despite these unseen hands which I would love to term ‘excuses’, there is no justification whatsoever for domestic violence.” Dupe Bodadoye In the wake of news of domestic violence all around us, we have been made to understand that there is a monster in us all. Many have spoken and

A gentleman and a half – my Alpha story
“Education begins the gentleman, but reading, good company and reflection must finish him.” – John Locke I was not brought up to be a gentleman, at least not in the fine sense of the word. But my natural inclination was to be on my best behavior all through my childhood

Save the children – by Jolade
Foolishness is indeed in the heart of a child. We have been inundated with a barrage of unpleasantness in recent times. The social media is awash with gory stories of domestic violence and more recently sordid details of two young children engaging in acts way beyond their age and comprehension.

Scarcity of Husbands – by Dupe Bobadoye
“Marrying a good man could easily mean that 50% of your life’ s worries are solved. But with a bad one, you would have inherited an additional 50% of worries.” Each time we hear the word ‘scarcity’, what comes to mind is something not enough, in short supply or available

Domestic Violence – the monster within us all
Some women are monsters. Some moms, aunties, sisters, and friends, will ask a woman to bear it, due to her financial incapacities, moral requirements, social standings of a woman, and so on. They will say “he is a provider, stay where your bread is buttered How many will suffer mental

Love is not enough (Part 2) – another short story
Love is not enough (Part 2) – another short story Love is great. Love is necessary. Love is beautiful. But love is not enough. This is the second part of this short tale. You can read the first part here. Enjoy!! *** writing in progress Related Posts Share on facebook Facebook Share on

Love is not enough (Part 1) – another short story
Love is not enough (Part 1) – another short story Love is great. Love is necessary. Love is beautiful. But love is not enough. This is the first part of this short tale. Enjoy *** “I am pregnant” James listened as if her words were unreasonable, perhaps even forbidden. The look on his

What to do while you wait – for your plans to come through
What to do while you wait – for your plans to come through “Patience is not simply the ability to wait – it’s how we behave while we’re waiting” I can boldly say that waiting is a common denominator for every human on the surface of God’s green earth. We

What your body language says about you
What your body language says about you “Your body language is more powerful than words” Since 2019 when I started writing again, I always wanted to write a post about body language. For many years, I have been a keen observer of communication in which physical behaviors, as opposed to

Too far gone – the cheating men (Part 2)!
Too far gone – cheating men (Part 2) “Every man is a bachelor out of his wife’s sight” Second and concluding part of this fiction story Of the lot, Dave and Ugo spent a good chunk of the time away from home at the new apartment. They barely slept at

Too far gone – the cheating men!
Too far gone – cheating men “Every man is a bachelor out of his wife’s sight” This is a short fiction story. None of the characters are real! Ada was a strikingly beautiful woman with an amazing curve of softness. She was endowed in every way to make her

Strange things – Part 2
Strange things – Part 2 “We have all got strange things about us“ My quote! Click here to read the first part of this short story to understand the context. Strange Things – Part 2 There I was squinting my small eyes as the brightness of the lights bulbs appeared

Faith’s Fate – a poem by Remi Adeniji
Faith’s Fate – A poem by Remi Adeniji Adeniji Aderemi O (Mr) is an educator. His passion for writing dates back to his secondary school days. He is married to a fellow educator and they are blessed with three boys Remi Believes that “Many people face diverse challenges in life

Most Popular blog Post of 2021
The most popular blog posts of 2021 I have experienced the most liberating times since I re-discovered my passion for writing” I must confess that 2022 is speeding away much faster than I had anticipated. In one breath we are already in March! One of the most frequently asked question

Letter to Sophie
Letter to Sophie – by Jolade “Love is a trap. When it appears we see only its light, not its shadows” Paulo Coelho Dear Sophie, Trust you are well. I know you have been avoiding me since our last discussion, but I hope you know I meant well for you.

Strange things – another pulsating short story
Strange things – another pulsating short story “We have all got strange things about us“ My quote! Strange Things I wasn’t sure if I was awake or in a dream. I couldn’t tell the difference because it felt oddly similar. I think I may be in the place between thoughts

Who cried wolf? – ghost of bachelorhood (Part 2)
Who cried wolf? – ghost of bachelorhood (Part 2) “Every man is a bachelor out of his wife’s sight”” Who cried wolf? – ghost of bachelorhood (Part 2) This story is fiction, and the characters are products of my crazy imagination. Please enjoy the short story. Halt!! I suggest you

Who cried wolf? – ghost of bachelorhood
Who cried wolf? – ghost of bachelorhood “Every man is a bachelor out of his wife’s sight”” This story is fiction, and the characters are products of my crazy imagination. Please enjoy the short story. That was me, on our honeymoon night. There I was sprawled out on this expansive

Let’s talk about your bad boss
Let’s talk about your bad boss “People don’t leave bad jobs, they leave bad bosses” Work In Progress Related Posts Share on facebook Facebook Share on twitter Twitter Share on linkedin LinkedIn

Are we alone in this vast universe?
Are we alone in this vast universe? “We often miss what we don’t expect to see,” Growing up decades ago, as students, we spent countless times going through books that tried really hard to describe the concept of the universe- from the big bang theories to the redshift and steady

Your perception is your reality
Your perception is your reality If you are perceived to be something, you might as well be it because that’s the truth in people’s minds. ****** There are things known and there are things unknown, and in between are the doors of perception.” — Aldous Huxley Years ago, I used

Guide to Common Interview Questions
Guide to common interview questions “The best way out is always through.” — Robert Frost When I was starting out my job search almost two decades ago, there was no such thing as a guide to interview questions. We barely rehearsed for the session. On the big day, one simply

Common mistakes first-time entrepreneurs make
Common mistakes first time entrepreneurs make “One of the huge mistakes people make is that they try to force an interest on themselves. You don’t choose your passions; your passions choose you.” So, I stumbled on this very incisive post by James Altucher on Quora and I thought to share

February Special III – He said/she said
February Special III – Is love really enough? “Love is not enough. It must be the foundation, the corner stone – but not the complete structure. It is much too pliable, too yielding” Is love really enough? She says….. Yes, Let me explain. Love isn’t just a feeling, the euphoria and sweet

February Special II – He said/she said
February Special II — How many times to forgive? “Forgiveness doesn’t excuse their behavior, forgiveness prevents their behavior from destroying your heart” How many times to forgive? The February series is a 2-minute short read with opinions from two diverse individuals on everyday relationship and marital issues. How many times

February Special I – He said/she said
February Special I – It is ME, not YOU “it’s far better to hear it is them, and not you, than to wait and see how it goes without them letting you know where they are really at” The February Series is a 2-minute short read with opinions from two

In Pursuit of Happiness – Ain’t we all?
In pursuit of Happiness – Ain’t we all? We are responsible for our own happiness. I am sure you have heard many motivational speakers of our time say often that “happiness is a choice” Trust me, I do not intend to debunk this because I agree completely. Whether you choose to

Signs of Low Esteem – how to fix
Signs of Low Esteem – how to fix Don’t let life weigh you down Do you hear voices inside your head? Saying….. “You’re stupid.” “You’re fat.” “Nobody likes you.” “You are a loser.” “You should be quiet. Every time you talk you just make a fool of yourself.” “Why can’t

Relationship Currency – why it matters
Relationship Currency – why it matters Relationship is the currency of life The first time I heard the about the “relationship currency”, it was from a TED talk video event anchored by Carla Harris, where she eloquently provided clarity on the reason why many top managers never rise beyond a

How to choose your Mentors
How to choose your Mentors Pitch in for some valuable insights One question that many young people will ask at some point in their career is; “how do I choose a mentor”? Unlike your biological parents where you had no choice in their selection, choosing a mentor is the prerogative

Indispensable Tom
Indispensable Tom – Jolade No darling, the world doesn’t revolve around you, Ta da! True story, I used to work with someone who would always tout how important he was to the organization, how he is untouchable and is to be revered no matter what he did. Why? Because he

Open your eyes- the opportunity is right there!
Open your eyes – the opportunity is right there Awesome opportunities fly by more often than you can ever imagine. But you need to know how to assess them. I have always thought deeply about opportunities and how it appears that some people seem to just attract opportunities effortlessly while