Emotional Intelligence

There is a particular kind of madness that visits a man stuck in traffic on the Third Mainland Bridge at half past six in the evening. I remember one such evening clearly. The cars were not moving. The okada men had long given up weaving between them and were now just leaning on their bikes, chatting. And somewhere between Adeniji and Oworonshoki, my mind decided to open a courtroom.

I want to tell you something about confidence that most people get spectacularly wrong.
And I mean that without arrogance — because I got it wrong too, for longer than I care to admit. I walked into rooms with my chest out and my chin up and told myself that was confidence. I practiced certain expressions in the mirror before big presentations. I rehearsed answers to imagined tough questions in the shower until the water ran cold.
I looked confident. I performed confidence quite convincingly, if I do say so myself.

There is a prison that has no concrete walls, no iron bars, no guards posted at the gate. Nobody built it for you. Nobody sentenced you to it. And yet, for many people, it is the place they spend the better part of their lives — circling its perimeter, brushing their fingers against its invisible boundaries, and quietly retreating each time they feel the edge of something that might require more of them than they believe they can give.

The boardroom at Crescent Capital Partners on Victoria Island smelled of leather and ambition — the kind that had been earned, aged, and perhaps left out a little too long. Emeka Osei-Bello, Managing Director and Group CEO, sat at the head of a long mahogany table, his charcoal suit immaculate, his posture the kind that says, I built this. He had, in many ways, done exactly that.

If I can’t have it, neither can you.”

In Nelson Mandela’s own words: “Courage is not the absence of fear, but the triumph over it.” Learning how to be courageous in the face of fear takes practice and persistence Is fear holding you back? Fear isn’t always an inherently bad thing. After all, fear is and has been a normal and healthy response

Losing self-confidence happens to me all the time, but the following tips would help you overcome this burden too.  Even the most experienced person can feel a lack of confidence at work. It doesn’t matter whether you are at the top of your career, in executive positions, excelling at work activities or suffering from impostor

The Fear Factor I the purpose of fear is to promote survival! The Fear Factor Fear is a distressing emotion no matter how you choose to see it, yet it is one of the most powerful emotions because of the effect it has on the mind and body. Although fear emanates from the mind, it

Life Principles – 7 signs to recognize close-minded people It’s easy to tell an open-minded person from a close-minded person because they act very differently If you know that you are blind, you can figure out a way to see, whereas if you don’t know you’re blind, you will continue to bump into your problems.

Where did your confidence go? – Let’s find it I lost my confidence on the way to find love, do you think you could help me find it? I recollect many years ago during my stay at the university, I had been introduced to a Professor’s daughter who resided at the female hostel on campus.

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