
Cheers to 2025
Every New Year holds promise, as though it is any different from the turn of
“Love is not enough. It must be the foundation, the corner stone – but not the complete structure. It is much too pliable, too yielding”
Is love really enough?
No matter how hard you try to justify “love” as the reason why your relationship will outlive that of your “exes”, it will always fall short. Equally as important as our famed “love” is respect, trust, companionship, security and responsibility. The list is quite exhaustive.
In the days when spouses were selected by families of both couples, love was only nurtured after the man had earned the respect, trust and confidence of his spouse. Young maidens are advised to marry a man that loved them desperately even if they didn’t feel the same measure of love for him. This advice was always given by her mother!
Truly, in any relationship, the partners do not love equally. One partner will always love more. How then can love be enough?
“I love you” is never enough! It may be a starting point, but there is a long road ahead and that road is laced with turns and twist that requires much more resilience than just love can muster.
Don’t get blinded by the sweet words and the promises of heaven and earth, love is just not enough to build a successful relationship let alone a long lasting marriage and family.
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Cheers.

Every New Year holds promise, as though it is any different from the turn of

Adaeze had been awake since 4 a.m.
Not because she was anxious — though she was — but because this trip felt different. After eighteen months of follow-ups, phone calls, and PowerPoint presentations polished to a mirror shine, the deal was finally ready to close. An investor meeting in Abuja. A partnership that would change the trajectory of her small but gutsy consulting firm. She had triple-checked her flight, her documents, her outfit. She had prayed. She was ready.

When he told his father, Dare’s first response was a sigh. Then: “I told you to practice more. I told you months ago. You don’t listen. You never listen.”
There was no “I’m sorry, son.” No pause to let the boy simply feel the loss of the thing he wanted. Just a swift, seamless pivot to what Temi had done wrong — and, by extension, how Temi’s failure was evidence of Temi’s failure to take his father’s wisdom seriously.

I want to tell you something that took me embarrassingly long to learn. Not because the idea is complicated — it is not. But because it cuts against something deeply wired in us, something we are rarely honest enough to admit.

You are somewhere between forty and fifty-five. You looked in the mirror recently and had a thought you immediately dismissed. Maybe you googled something at 2am that you would never say out loud. Maybe you bought something expensive and impractical and told everyone it was an investment. Or maybe you just feel — quietly, persistently — like the life you built was supposed to feel better than this by now.

Anton Chekhov was a Russian physician and playwright — a man trained in the discipline of diagnosis before he became one of the most precise storytellers in the history of world literature. That combination of sensibilities matters, because the principle he articulated in the late nineteenth century was not merely a rule of dramatic craft. It was an observation about the nature of significance itself. About what it means for something to be present. About the relationship between introduction and consequence.
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7 thoughts on “February Special III – He said/she said”
Love is never, can never, will never be enough. Saying, “I love you” is like buying JAMB form ….that is not enough to call you a graduate. Wetin dey after 6 pass 7
Love is enough.
However, there is a but.
The ‘but’ is it has to be equal and unfortunately it is almost impossible
For love not to be expensive or been about gifts both parties must believe in that ideology.
So Love is never enough because we are humans who are insatiable, selfish and sometimes greedy
Speaking from experience, LOVE can never be enough even if it’s mutual. Get Wisdom and you enjoy the relationship all the way.
Love… I don’t really understand! Love will never be enough…… Because Love is selfish
Very selfish… I agree. Everyone has an interest to protect.
Love will be enough, very enough if we’ll defined, love is tolerance, perseverance, patience, truth, kindness,, care, prayer intersesory, sacrificend every good way to help a partner live nd be happy
The topic of discussion should rather BE’IS I LOVE yoU ENOUGH’that statement means nothing until u start acting d characteristics of love….. My take on time Akin
This is what I take away, “Logic belongs to mathematics and not love”… deep!